I like women because they are female AND different! What a concept!

I found myself in a “situation” the other day where some people were rather displeased with my “less-than-sweet” view of women, or at least in what I had written.  I am not out to deliberately hurt people’s feelings by what I write BUT I am aware that some might not take my approach the way that I might intend it.  A great deal of my “chauvinistic” writings are MY “tongue-in-cheek” opinions of men and women’s actions.  On TV they call it a sitcom; on here I am often seen as an egotistical jerk.

There is however one group of people that enjoy getting to…that being the radical feminist.  I don’t have much problem with anyone standing up for their rights or being outspoken about their likes and dislikes but I feel that these same people wish to be exempt from rebuttal.
The radical feminist comes across to me as a person that sees that women are treated “poorly” by men and wants to fight back.  The way that they fight back is very similar to the way that terrorists fight…like cowards.  The terrorist has an issue, feels that nobody cares to listen so makes sure that someone listens by involving  “innocent” people into his/her personal fight.  The radical feminists do the same.  They have no interest in meeting in the middle, no tolerance for discussion, no time for talking, they are tired of being oppressed and now it is THEIR turn.  THEIR turn to act the same way that they will say they hate.  They don’t want to have gender equality…they want the typical gender roles reversed.  The radical feminist doesn’t want equality, they want the ability to oppress.  This says to me that rather they actually want to be the same as those they hate.  Did I miss something?

I have been reading a blog from a radical feminist recently.  I say radical because the first words in her post is “I hate men”.  She goes on to explain why she and all women should hate men, basically because men hate women.  Most women don’t see this fact, or they are too “trained” not to revolt against the oppression that men force on women so this woman (on behalf of all women) is presenting the facts.

The problem with me taking on this role of stating my opinion of such “radicals” is this comment in her blog:
“Men have such fragile and pathetic little egos that even though they enjoy almost complete and total world domination, they are awfully threatened by women speaking up for themselves even a little bit.”
By me having the audacity to in any way question what she says it is apparent that her words have hurt my ego, that I am threatened and so in typical male fashion I am (by way of MY post) trying to oppress her.  The radical feminist sets everything up so that any rebuttal is taken as oppression.  That is convenient!

That is what I find difficult to comprehend with ANYONE that has a radical viewpoint.  It is THEIR way or the highway.  Radical feminists are famous for this. I have no problem if you hate me and you think I am an asshole.  Bitch!  Now you see, I am not calling you bitch because you are a woman, I could call you asshole too but YOU already used that name.  The reason I called you bitch is that you have decided that rather than having a debate over human rights, you wish to “show” your superiority by name calling.  I, on the other hand should not say anything to you because:
a)    You are right in all that you say.
b)    Any response I would make is “typical” AND proof that I, being a man, wish to dominate you.

People that are of the both genders that stand up for human rights of bother genders impress me.
The radical feminist that I wrote of stated that she “had never met a man that did not actively condone in any way, shape or form, any of the following:
Rape
Murder
War
Environmental destruction for the sake of “jobs”
Wife beating
Girlfriend beating
Porn
BDSM
Street harassment of women
Forced veiling of women
Incest
Statutory rape
Forced pregnancy and birth
Giving fetii more rights than the women in whose bodies they are growing

What amazed me is the fact that rather than looking at the issues from a “human” perspective, she is stating that MEN (as in the gender with a penis) is solely responsible for condoning the above.  I will readily admit that some of the above ARE in fact issues that are gender specific to men but in general the list is of societal issues on the whole as opposed to ones that can be blamed on all men.

The same way as the terrorist groups say “the American People” when quoting their enemy, the woman that states he hates ALL men for the reasons shown above puts herself in the same class as a terrorist. The problem with terrorists AND feminists are that they both go too far to make their point, they both broad-brush demographics and genders and to a great extent they are both misguided.

The radical feminist that I spoke of listed 10 reasons to hate men and the bulk of the reaons were sensational and disgusting and the perpitrators should be hated…but ALL men didn’t carry out these crimes and I am sure that ALL men don’t condone the events…rather I am sure that most that live in the same society that this woman lives in would find the acts appalling.

When it comes to the issue of feminism…I have been told many times that I am egotistical and chauvinist.  I do take heed of what is said to me in so far as I try and be apathetic to the “other side of the story”.  I do try to look within and I do see at times, although not all of the time that I AM sexist.  I do not work at sexism however like it were a hobby.  I don’t try to be a typical male, some of it comes naturally but in most cases it is in response to a feminist.  In the big picture my tolerence for the differences between men and women is greater than most but I am still a man.  Better than you?  No….equal.  Let’s keep it on that level shall we?

Rantings about the women of Plentyoffish

1. I feel that far too many women act as if the world revolves around their crotch.  Sure, if I like you I would love to have sex with you… BUT what if I am one of those strange guys that really wants you to have a head on your shoulders as well. Women are always accusing guys of thinking only about sex; those same women spend far too much time thinking about guys thinking about sex.

2. I am not a breast man.  I could care less about them.  Once again I have seen far too many women say that men are only interested in their breasts yet at the same time exploiting the fact that they have them.  I do however have a positive preference for a nice derriere.

3. I have a preference for dark hair, dark, eyes and dark skin.  I find that, in my case, Caucasian women make the best friends yet I would never live with one again. I have a great admiration for women that have an Eastern background.

4. I have a hard time connecting with those that place conditions on a relationship:

“I love you…but you need to….”
“You are my best friend…but I didn’t hear from you yesterday…so now I hate you”
“I really need you in my life regardless of anything….two days later…fuck off”
These are attempts to control a situation that should never be controlled.  Feelings in a relationship should flow without restraint and without boundaries or their will be no growth.

5. If a woman states that she is looking for “one” friend, yet wants to “play the field” until she finds exactly what she is looking for…great.  That same woman is the one that says she can’t stand players.  What she means is she doesn’t want to meet anyone that plays the same games as her.

6. I don’t like superficial people.  I laugh at them. If you act like you are better than someone else because of your wealth, your looks or your social status…don’t cry if someone breaks your heart…or hurts your feelings, you deserve it.

7. Some people take life too seriously and others not enough.  I have met penny-pinching millionaires and welfare recipients that throw change in the garbage.  I like to live my life with a sense of balance.  I like to experience extremes from time to time but “live” in the middle.

8. I don’t like jealous people.  I conduct myself in an appropriate manner, one that works for me.  If someone I meet tries to change my routine to suit them while putting restrictions on my conduct, I will become frustrated.

9. I really cannot “click” with ignorant people.  People that put no effort into their person and their lives around them cause me to feel discouraged. I am not better than an ignorant person, it is just that we have little in common.

10. I don’t like it when a person will “fight to the death” over an unproven opinion.  I like it when someone offers an opinion but starting an argument over a “thought” without “proof” boggle my mind.

11. Women that trade off sex for money.  I smile when I hear an average middle-aged woman saying she wants to meet a rich man so she won’t have to work anymore.  What does she have to offer him? If I am “paying” for a woman to sit at home she will be young, good looking and act like a porn star in the bedroom. On the other hand, the women that say that they are being objectified when all they want is to be pampered.  I remember one woman I spoke to told me she wanted a new “sugar daddy” that didn’t treat her like a sex object.

I’m glad I am a man

I’m glad I’m a man, you better believe…I don’t live off of yogurt, diet coke, or cottage cheese.

I don’t bitch to my girlfriends about the size of my breasts…I can get where I want to – north, south, east or west.

I don’t get wasted after only 2 beers and when I do drink I don’t end up in tears.

I won’t spend hours deciding what to wear…I spend 5 minutes max fixing my hair.

I don’t go around checking my reflection in everything shiny from every direction.

I’m glad I’m a man, I’m so glad I could sing…I don’t have to sit around waiting for that ring.

I don’t gossip about friends or stab them in the back…I don’t carry our differences into the sack.

I’ll never go psycho and threaten to kill you or think every guy out there’s trying to steal you.

I’m rational, reasonable, and logical too, I know what the time is and I know what to do.

I honestly think its a privilege for me to have these two balls and stand when I pee.

Feel free to use me for immediate pleasure…I won’t assume it’s permanent by any measure.

Yes, I’m glad I’m a man, a man you see…I’m glad I’m not capable of child delivery.

I’m a man by chance and I’m thankful it’s true….I’m so glad I’m a man and not a woman like you.

Under my skin

NO doubt that men heartily love women. However, there are 10 basic things about women that irritate men.

-Men do not like women who pretend. Men believe that women should stay themselves and give up every attempt to seem better.

-Men hate it when their women criticise other females. It is a proven fact that women often treat other women as rivals. But remember that a woman will gain no popularity with men if she continuously criticises other women’s dresses, shoes and handbags and also their compatibility with each other.

-Women’s jealousy exasperates men. Jealousy can break even the strongest relationship. It shows that one partner does not trust another or feels insecure. Trust is the basis of a strong relationship.

-Men do not like to be treated as an emotional support. They get irritated when women always demand caresses and hugs, when they want to be treated special.

-It is no good for women to employ the speech code in relations with men. When women employ the ‘What are you thinking about?’ speech code they thus hope to pump real feelings and emotions out of men. When a woman asks a man this sort of vague questions she expects to catch him unawares and learn what his feelings toward her are.

-Some women want all the spare time of their men to be devoted to them only. This is some sort of interference with men’s privacy. At the worst, women start spying on their men, asking relatives and close friends what their men are doing. They also ransack men’s pockets and desk drawers in search of some evidence. Women must not behave like proprietresses.

-Women’s emotionality makes men absolutely mad. Unlike women, men are sure that broken nails or touching films are not a trouble at all. Males do not love it when their partners burst into tears or fly into a rage on every trifle occasion.

-It is universally known that men hate women’s never-ending shopping. Men generally believe that 24 hours in a day are not enough for women to enjoy shopping, to have an opportunity to touch and try on everything they find. Men find it the most terrible ordeal when women insist they accompany them during shopping.

-Women’s talkativeness irritates men. A women’s brain easily conceives every minute detail while men do not like to listen to trivial details.

-Women have a sure leverage to demonstrate their superiority over men. This is sex which is the most powerful weapon in the war between males and females. Women deprive their men of sex in an attempt to punish them. But this may, in some cases, have lamentable consequences for women.

All said, nobody is perfect, and partners should learn to compromise and be patient with each other.

The glitter has gone

Somewhere between seven and twelve years of marriage you find that the glitter has worn away. You find that your relationship is lacking the excitement and passion that you once enjoyed. You used to be the centre of his attention and now it seems like he doesn’t care.

A friend of yours told you about this site. You aren’t sure what you are looking for but will know when you find it…or something like that. Right?

So before you get carried away and start looking for a Knight in Shining Armour that can give you the “butterflies” that have been long missing from your dreary days, have a look at my list of both ‘do’s’ and ‘don’ts.’

In my personal experience, the presence of things that are real irritants is sometimes harder to take than the absence of things that please. I know that you are deserving of so much more than the ***hole that you married but if you don’t want the “Knight” to turn into the same guy as hubby…take heed:

1. Respect us: Our opinions and actions count, even if we don’t think quite like you do and even if we act or react differently than you.

2. Don’t criticize us: Especially, don’t use terms like “you always” or “you never” in a negative way.

3. Don’t dredge up the past: What we said on May 13, 1987 or did on November 22, 1993, is irrelevant today. It’s history. We’re still together aren’t we? Doesn’t that mean that whatever it was that upset you has been forgiven and forgotten?

4. If we are grappling with a personal or work-related issue, please understand that not everything needs to be analyzed to death. If we don’t want to talk about something, leave us alone. We handle our problems more privately than women. If you offer us unsolicited advice, it puts us in a very awkward position of being seen as ignoring or undervaluing your opinion if we choose to address the problem our way. Discussions of things that affect both of us or our children directly are, of course, another matter.

5. Don’t push. Say it once, that’s enough. Harping on anything on your gripe list will guarantee pretty much the opposite of what you would like. You might think that “You never bring me flowers,” is a good way to get us to correct our oversight. Instead, to men, that observation of yours is tantamount to an order to get you some damn flowers, or else. We don’t follow orders well.

6. Lose the sarcasm. Curb that acid tongue of yours. Do you seriously think that skewering everyone and everything in your path is going to result in harmonious relationships, especially with your mate?

7. Don’t embarrass us in public. If you have a problem with something we do or say, wait until we get home to discuss it, and then bring it up in as neutral a way as possible. Don’t raise your voice, don’t cry, don’t walk around with that ‘look’ on your face. It’s embarrassing to us and should be embarrassing to you too.

8. Let’s have a united front in dealing with children. They are our kids too. We are just as likely to be correct as you are in how we handle our kids. Support and enforce our decisions. We’ll do the same for you.

9. Women appear to have some sort of secret rule book about what they expect of a mate or lover. If you’re going to use the rule book, you have to give us a copy. Men often have no clue why their spouse is upset about something. If men are to be judged like this, at least let us know what is expected of us. If it is reasonable, we will be happy to comply. If it is unreasonable, at least we will be able to tell you so, and relieve you of any unrealistic expectation that we might ever act the way you wish us to.

10. Don’t tell us how to drive or how to get to where we’re going. We knew how to start the car, get out of the driveway, drive across town and across the country long before we ever met you. Why do we suddenly need detailed instructions?

11. Many of our hobbies, interests, dreams and aspirations are different from yours. So what? We go with you to craft shows and to see chick flics. If it pleases us to have you accompany us to a monster truck rally or an action movie, put on your coat, smile sweetly, and come with us. Be happy that we want to spend time with you.

12. Recognize that we are very visual beings. We like to look. Just because we admire a nice set of boobs or a perfect derriere on another woman doesn’t mean that we don’t love you. We’re with you, aren’t we? Don’t make an issue of something trivial. Don’t point out to us that her breasts are probably plastic and that she is probably as stupid as a stump. It demeans you much more than the woman you are insulting. In return, we will promise to be circumspect and not to embarrass you by being overtly lecherous.

13. Recognize that we are also very physical beings. We need lots and lots of physical attention. We are much more likely to be helpful and co-operative and sympathetic and even-tempered, and to take you to the theatre and buy you flowers and give you the emotional closeness you crave, if we get lots of physical attention, with lots of variety and in a spirit of fun.

There.
It’s an imperfect list, but all I have time for.

And… all my female friends, if you think my list is too harsh and one-sided, please replay in your mind the conversations you have had with your best friend, or sister or mother, about your husband or boyfriend.
Still think my comments are harsh? Chances are you used some rather strong language in those conversations and called the offending male some really nasty names.

If you are a female who truly and honestly doesn’t recognize herself in even a few of the points above, you are one in a million. Your mate should bow down before you and treat you like a queen, or at least run off to the flower store to get you some daisies or something, before you meet your new Mr. Right.

Tell him I said so.

Born Free

The 1970’s movie “Born Free” makes most people cry. It’s a sentimental tearjerker about a lion cub bred in captivity by a loving family who eventually realize they will have to release it to live among its own kind where it will finally be happy.

Predictably, you’ll ball your eyes out in the climactic final scene when it’s time to let the lion go.

Yet a lot of you will still spend years trying to do the exact opposite once you find a man.

You capture him and then spend years trying to change or domesticate him. To try and force him to live as something he’s not (That’s irony, you know…). Changing people to fit your idea of the perfect partner is wrong.

To accomplish this feat, you use the most persuasive, natural resource known to man-your vagina.

You convince your man that he’ll get all this sex and more once you get married. You’re lying. You just don’t know it yet. The amount of sex you have will fall off dramatically. But you won’t notice it. You’ll just skip it a few times at first for whatever reason. But then you’ll keep skipping it.

Why? Because in the back of your mind you are thinking, “We can have sex tomorrow.”

That’s the killer. Married people have an easy out. A rationalization. And pretty soon, you’re only having sex twice a month!

TWICE! Yeah, scary huh? Well, get used to the idea cuz we said, “That’ll never happen to US”, too. You can’t beat it. It’s inevitable. (That’s why it’s important to find somebody you REALLY like, even when he’s not putting out.)

Anyway, that’s why married guys appear to be “good ones.” They’re passive. Preprocessed. Brainwashed. Trained through operant conditioning-the promise of continual, or at least regular, sex-to behave in more “acceptable” ways (acceptable to whom?).
But don’t think only women are wholly to blame. Men aren’t much better.

After men get married, men turn into couch crushing, beer swilling, fart machines who stop doing all the things they did when dating. Like listening to you. Buying flowers? Going on dates? Naaaah, there’s a game on.

Men trash the apartment, ignore them and take you for granted all the while expecting you to reenact scenes from porno movies.
Marriage is an equal opportunity dream crusher.

It’s a tradeoff.

Men trade nonstop hot, animal sex with numerous strangers in exchange for a loving partner to build a life with.

Women trade romantic dinners in moonlit courtyards and their nice tidy existence for one where the TV is always on ESPN.

Anyone you know?

1) Selfish – to the point where they don’t know the difference between love of self and plain downright greed–and drilled into believing that whatever happens is the fault of whatever man is in their life because of the feminist crud drilled into them by the cadre of asexual closet cases called “therapists” who appear on “Ricki”, “Oprah” or other such electronic drivel.

2) Deluded – into thinking they “deserve” a rich, model-handsome husband who will “take them away from all of this”–whatever the “this” might be–and leading to resentment when they discover that the universe does NOT revolve around them.

3) Angry – ALL the damn time about things which are so far out of their control as to be nonsensical–and constantly wanting to “discuss” this mind numbing drivel ad nauseam.

4) Psychotic – multiple personalities in the same woman – as “Nomad” put it in the “Star Trek” episode: “Woman…a mass of inconsistencies…”, and also when the feminist voices in their heads start with the regrets and victim acculturation.

5) Worthless – anything that does not immediately resolve itself in her favor or to her benefit is meaningless to her, especially husband and family.

6) Lazy – drilled into their head that they “deserve” a maid, nanny and personal slave to take care of every detail – and that their husband/boyfriend is REQUIRED to cater to their each and every mindless whim.

7) Resentful – especially of other women who have things that they do not, in material, spiritual and esoteric senses.

Greedy – to them, “housekeeping” means getting the house in the divorce (thanks to Zsa Zsa for that immortal line) and sucking the guy for every last cent, even if they had nothing to do with the building of the nest egg.

9) Mindless – constant, irritating, idle prattle about topics they read about in some women’s magazine and then become instant experts–particularly pop psychology and the latest crap they see on “Oprah” or “Ricki”.

10) Vain – believing that they are irresistible to everything in pants and therefore are allowed to behave sluttish and without any honour.

Centre of the universe

I am looking for a rather unique woman. I find myself tiring of the typical personalities that I meet up with on here. I find that most are seeking an unrealistic fantastic scenario where they are put on a pedestal and somehow deserving of the attention they demand.

The typical “married-but-looking” woman wants to feel the passion, excitement and butterflies that she once felt with hubby but somehow got lost along the way. At the same time she wants to keep her family, home in the suburbs and her gym membership intact, all the while keeping hubby in the dark about her endevours on here.

I will let you in on a secret…The only reason that most married men put married women on a pedestal, the reason they ACT the way you would like to imagine them acting is because they want to have sex with you.

The fact is that behind your back most men have a “less-than-rosy” view of women. At the very least, it is a far cry from what you would like to imagine. The truth is, many men still adhere to the old adage that “women are only good for one thing”. They just don’t tell you that. It would interfere with the possibility of them getting laid.

I find it ironic that most women will say that they don’t like being sexually objectified but spend an undue amount of time making sex an issue. If you think that most men on here are just looking for sex…you are right; but besides sex, what else of any value do you have to offer?

Men may think with their dicks, but women act like the world does and rightfully should revolve around their nether-regions.

That being said, if you feel that your crotch is your greatest attribute and are happy with the attention that it brings, don’t let me stand in your way. It has got you to this point hasn’t it? It might even get you on that desired pedestal.

Some of us ARE looking for more. Is there anything between your ears that I might be interested in? Prove it.

If you have matured to the point where you have faith in your core personality and are past the point where you use your pussy alone as a bargaining chip….please say hello.