I am a 42 year old married female living in the GTA (Greater Toronto Area) Ontario, Canada.  Most of the time, I am a happily married woman and mother of two.  I say sometimes because my marriage has been the Behemoth Roller Coaster of marriages.  I have weathered each storm, doing what I needed to do to get me through it.  To some, the choices I made are wrong and I will rot in Hell (thank goodness I don’t believe in Hell) to others, the choices I made were selfish.  To me, they were choices I made and I don’t regret any of them.  Each choice I made; each experience I had is a testament to who I am as a person.  I have grown spiritually and intellectually.  But most important, I have grown to love myself – body and soul – so I can love others even more deeply.

I am a very realistically optimistic person.  Easy going, open-minded, sociable and sometimes witty.  My philosophy in life is to find joy and spread joy; to be kind; to be accepting; and to love.  I am not judgemental in the least.  I strongly believe that you should never judge a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes.
I have opinions – some strong, some not – all flexible, when new information/facts are presented.  I enjoy listening to all viewpoints, as long as they are discussed with respect and not domination.  Do not quote the Bible to me – it is only one book of many that contains wonderful lessons and stories – but in my opinion, is not THE rule book of life.

Rather than religious, I am more spiritual and look inwardly to find the answers I seek – I listen to my inner voice and have had some amazing conversations with her.  Although I am a very logical thinker – and will seek out facts when necessary and required – I also know that there is a strong connection between mind and soul (heart) and I listen to both attentively.

Generally I am a happy person and if things do get me down, they do not get me down for long.  I seek out information that I need or am interested in.  I enjoy stimulating my mind with all sorts of subjects and am interested in psychology; astronomy; astrology; the paranormal; philosophy; spirituality; science; nature.  I did not say I am an expert in any of these, but they are some of the things that interest me.

I consider myself intelligent.  I am University educated, but don’t necessarily believe that is the reason why I am intelligent.  My intuition is strong most of the time; I can read most individuals easily, but still get surprised (or blind-sided by some) – and consider that a very good thing!  I have had my share of heartbreaks and hurts; joys and happiness and wouldn’t trade any of them for anything.

Having a full time career in management and two children doesn’t leave much time left over.  However I like to spend any of the spare time that I do have reading and learning (on my terms) about a variety of topics.  I love movies and acting; music and theatre.

I am an immigrant to this country; however was schooled and raised here.  I live in small town, outside of the big city and enjoy visiting the city; but living in a small town.  I come from a (in my opinion) dysfunctional family – who doesn’t!?

Although I enjoy light witty conversation, I am more at my element having deep, philosophical discussions – not to impress, but to be impressed by those around me.  I enjoy hearing other people’s opinions on everything as well as just being educated and learning from those who know more than I do about a given topic.
I question my skills as a mother and wife often.

I welcome new experiences and try not to be afraid of anything – and try to instill that into my children (not always easy!)

I don’t have too many friends – but a lot of acquaintances – by choice.  I do not take my commitment as a friend lightly and therefore choose those who become a part of my life carefully.  I am kind to everyone – unless you are unkind to me – then I just ignore you.

I can come across as a secretive or mysterious person – but can also wear my heart on my sleave.  I used to cry easily, but have learned to control my emotions for the most part.  I know that there is great anger that lurks inside me; but at the same time there is a huge capacity for love which outweighs the anger by a long shot.

I can also come across as a assertive, cold-hearted bitch who lacks empathy.  However, I am a kind and generous person.  But I believe strongly that you must take responsibility for your own life and blaming others for what you have created in your life is cowardly and immature.

I am sexual and am comfortable discussing any aspect of sexuality.  I miss long kisses and have learned to live without them.  I believe that sometimes sexual fantasies are more powerful and orgasmic as fantasies, and leave them there.  As much as I am comfortable discussing sexuality; I tend not to ask my partner for what I need – mostly because of the dynamics of our relationship and not wanting to offend or make him feel he is not satisfying me.

I am constantly searching – for what?  I don’t know yet, but I’m having a great time and learning a lot on my journey.